Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Tell Me How You Really Feel: 22

I will always be short. That's how I was born. I'm adult, and aside from growing outward, which could happen, I will not be growing upward. I am okay with being short. My body parts are all relatively healthy.

My husband and kids are also short. Yes, Tim is only 5'6". Since he's 44, he won't be growing upward any time soon, either. The girls, identical twins, are short. They aren't short because they are twins. They are short because they are the byproduct of short parents. This happens sometimes. We don't have too many rogue tall genes in the family. But we have plenty of short genes. Grandma Meade and Aunt Tara, in particular, are shorter than me. We're short. That's life.

Why am I telling you this? Because I am tired of people pointing out my lack of height as a deficit or a flaw. I can reach all of my cabinets, so who cares if I'm short? I'm also tired of listening to people go on and on about how small the girls are, or comparing their kids to mine in terms of height. We are who we are, and in terms of how tall we are, there's very little we can do about it.

So the next time you decide to say to me, "Oh my gosh. The girls are so much smaller than my child," or "My kid towers over Aaron," I want you to think about what you're saying. You would (hopefully) never come up and say, "Oh my gosh. The girls are so much brighter than my child," nor would you say, "My kid is way more brilliant than Aaron." Because just like stature, we can't do all that much about changing the brain we're born with.

That's all, folks. Just had to get that one off my chest for this week.(And it's been a LONG time since we've had one of these posts.)

**I know that brains can be worked with, and that much of what I CAN do today is because I work hard. So yes, there is something we can do with the brain we're given. But I certainly can't swap my brain for Tim's, which on some days, sounds like a great idea. (On other days, not so much.)

4 comments:

Barbara Halabi said...

Thanks for saying this. I am so tired also of people pointing out how small my kids are (especially Jenin). She comes home weekly with a story of how someone tells her (usually a kid) that she looks like she's in kindergarten. We have been dealing with this since both my kids were small - the constant comparing of their child to mine. So I stand with you today and say - GET OVER IT! It makes no difference what height you are - MANNERS matter more and I think all those people should stand in line for some new manners - and that's HOW I REALLY FEEL :)

Timmy said...

MLB Players
David Eckstein: 5'6"
Joe Morgan: 5'7"
Phil Rizzuto: 5'6"
Jimmy Rollins: 5'8"
Joe Sewell: 5'6"
Hack Wilson: 5'6"
Kirby Puckett: 5'8"
Yogi Berra: 5'7"

Soccer:
Aaron Lennon: 5'5"
Jermain Defoe: 5'6"
Leo Messi: 5'7"
Santi Cazorla: 5'4"
Landon Donovan: 5'8"
Diego Maradona: 5'5"
Romario: 5'6"
Garrincha: 5'7"
Pele: 5'8"
Joao Plata: 5'2"

USWNT:
Tobin Heath: 5'6"
Megan Rapinoe: 5'6"
Kelley O'Hara: 5'5"
Ali Krieger: 5'6"
Lori Chalupny: 5'4"
Meghan Klingenberg: 5'2"
Heather O'Reilly: 5'5"
Amy Rodriguez: 5'4"

NBA:
Spud Webb: 5'7"
Muggsy Bogues: 5'3"
Earl Boykins: 5'5"
Isaiah Thomas: 5'9"

NFL:
Trindon Holliday: 5'5"
Darren Sproles: 5'6"
Jaquizz Rodgers: 5'6"
Maurice Jones-Drew: 5'7"
Wes Welker: 5'8"

Christina said...

Love you both!

sandra doninger said...

SO much YES!!! Thank you!