Think about your favorite heroes or heroines for a moment...
What do each of them have in common? Can you identify what draws you to them? Can you understand why you might place them in the category of highly regarded characters? It doesn't matter if the character comes from a book or a movie or from real life, I bet each and every one of the people we could list would have one characteristic that shines like the proverbial beacon of light.
I know what I think. Each hero or heroine of mine doesn't just allow life to happen to them. They don't sit back and watch the days go by, hoping that things will go a different way or get better. They don't call up friends and family and ask how to manage their lives (asking for help and opinions are a different matter altogether though). They reach out, take their own lives into their own hands, manipulate that life, work with it, try to make it how they want it, keeping in mind what is best for their family.
But It's a scary thing, waking up and realizing that you need to become your very own hero or heroine. And it isn't easy to do, because sometimes, you need to get selfish. You need to look inward, leave other important people on the periphery, and do what is best for your own personal health. The outcome might not be exactly what you envision, but in the end, you've done it. You've become the master of your own life, and there's a sense of peace in knowing that.
"Whether I shall turn out to be the hero of my own life, or whether that
station will be held by anybody else, these pages must show." ~Charles Dickens, David Copperfield